Comments on: Punished http://durhamregionkids.com/2008/05/punished/ Durham Region Ontario resources and home of Life with Lucy and Alice Thu, 09 Sep 2010 02:53:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Carly http://durhamregionkids.com/2008/05/punished/comment-page-1/#comment-14395 Carly Wed, 14 May 2008 19:49:57 +0000 http://durhamregionbaby.com/2008/05/punished/#comment-14395 Eric does drop-off each morning, so it's not an issue of her being familiar with Daddy and the car seat. It's purely a power thing. He could, technically, do drop-offs now, seeing as he's home job hunting, but we're doing out best to keep things as consistent/normal as possible. And fair to each other, too. Eric does drop-off each morning, so it’s not an issue of her being familiar with Daddy and the car seat. It’s purely a power thing.

He could, technically, do drop-offs now, seeing as he’s home job hunting, but we’re doing out best to keep things as consistent/normal as possible. And fair to each other, too.

]]> By: Cristen http://durhamregionkids.com/2008/05/punished/comment-page-1/#comment-14393 Cristen Wed, 14 May 2008 16:34:54 +0000 http://durhamregionbaby.com/2008/05/punished/#comment-14393 oh, and can't Eric pick her up from daycare? She'll probably get more used to him doing the car seat routine that way. oh, and can’t Eric pick her up from daycare? She’ll probably get more used to him doing the car seat routine that way.

]]> By: Cristen http://durhamregionkids.com/2008/05/punished/comment-page-1/#comment-14357 Cristen Wed, 14 May 2008 02:04:34 +0000 http://durhamregionbaby.com/2008/05/punished/#comment-14357 We have the same sorts of behaviour, but not to the same degree. She prefers me to get her out of the carseat and will patiently wait for me to run in the house to use the potty before coming back to get her. Although in the last week she takes a big jump and slides out of the chair by herself and if you touch her, she climbs back in and does it all again. I do the bedtimes, but daddy needs to do it more. She likes to sit 'right next' to me at dinner, but if I'm not around, she adores her daddy and generally adores him anyway. It's not to the same degree as you're describing. Our big problem these days is the "I do" stuff. It gets to be annoying waiting for her to decide when she's going to get in the car seat and when she forces me to walk all the way down the stairs and wait for her at the bottom (even on big outdoor concrete steps). We have the same sorts of behaviour, but not to the same degree. She prefers me to get her out of the carseat and will patiently wait for me to run in the house to use the potty before coming back to get her. Although in the last week she takes a big jump and slides out of the chair by herself and if you touch her, she climbs back in and does it all again. I do the bedtimes, but daddy needs to do it more. She likes to sit ‘right next’ to me at dinner, but if I’m not around, she adores her daddy and generally adores him anyway. It’s not to the same degree as you’re describing. Our big problem these days is the “I do” stuff. It gets to be annoying waiting for her to decide when she’s going to get in the car seat and when she forces me to walk all the way down the stairs and wait for her at the bottom (even on big outdoor concrete steps).

]]> By: DoodlesMom http://durhamregionkids.com/2008/05/punished/comment-page-1/#comment-14354 DoodlesMom Tue, 13 May 2008 01:39:01 +0000 http://durhamregionbaby.com/2008/05/punished/#comment-14354 yes it ends ... when their in their 20s. Luckily that's only 17.5 more years for you to go before she realizes she needs her Daddy as much as she needs you. No, you're not alone. Lexy still does it. She comes flying at me "Moooommmmmeeeeee!!" and ignores Alex. Caity does too. The first couple of times she did this, he was really hurt. Especially as he was the one who bonded with her first because I was sick in the hospital. He'd say stuff like "she used to want only me" ... ever see a grown man pout? It happens, there's not a lot you can do about it except grin and bear it, unfortunately. It's frustrating as hell because you've been at work all day, you've got to come home, pick up the child(ren), make dinner (sometimes in shifts depending on nap times after daycare), clean up after dinner, make the lunches for the next day, do the dishes, any laundry that needs to be done, get the clothes out for the next day, put the kid(s) to bed and finally fall into a coma yourself at about 11-12 o'clock only to do it all again the next morning ... yes, a break would be nice, but it's easier when they stop screaming if you do whatever it is that they are looking for you to do that daddy couldn't possibly do in a million years or until they're five whichever comes first ... ok I'm outta breath now lol. That's kinda how it goes. Hey Carly, where'd the "preview post" button that used to be at the bottom of the page go? yes it ends … when their in their 20s. Luckily that’s only 17.5 more years for you to go before she realizes she needs her Daddy as much as she needs you.

No, you’re not alone. Lexy still does it. She comes flying at me “Moooommmmmeeeeee!!” and ignores Alex. Caity does too. The first couple of times she did this, he was really hurt. Especially as he was the one who bonded with her first because I was sick in the hospital. He’d say stuff like “she used to want only me” … ever see a grown man pout?

It happens, there’s not a lot you can do about it except grin and bear it, unfortunately. It’s frustrating as hell because you’ve been at work all day, you’ve got to come home, pick up the child(ren), make dinner (sometimes in shifts depending on nap times after daycare), clean up after dinner, make the lunches for the next day, do the dishes, any laundry that needs to be done, get the clothes out for the next day, put the kid(s) to bed and finally fall into a coma yourself at about 11-12 o’clock only to do it all again the next morning … yes, a break would be nice, but it’s easier when they stop screaming if you do whatever it is that they are looking for you to do that daddy couldn’t possibly do in a million years or until they’re five whichever comes first … ok I’m outta breath now lol.

That’s kinda how it goes.

Hey Carly, where’d the “preview post” button that used to be at the bottom of the page go?

]]> By: yvette http://durhamregionkids.com/2008/05/punished/comment-page-1/#comment-14353 yvette Tue, 13 May 2008 01:21:42 +0000 http://durhamregionbaby.com/2008/05/punished/#comment-14353 We been there with Annika,as she was 2, I was 8 months pregnant she was on a Daddy trip and I was not able to do anything. Which I have to admit hurt a lot and made me feel bad.Mommyego! And I though she is mad at me for something???Beeing pregnant! But we just let her get on with it,because I was not feeling that great and just went with the flow, when her Daddy was not home, I was able to bring her to bed or bath her.No Problems. Now where she is almost 3. she wants as to take turns specially when someone had gotten her a timeout then she wants the other parent to be with her. Thats something where I not agree with. Last time daddy gave her a timeout and then was not able to bring her to bed. I only told her that I am busy and Daddy is going to bring her to bed. As she still was rejecting her Daddy I told her she need to give Daddy a hug and a kiss and Tell him she loves him or there is no story before bed at all. I think when they first start this with 2 it is the first expierence that they can control their little world, and there is almost now way they want to give it up. Maybe you have to let Eric to something with her what she really really likes. Annika started to prefer Daddy as I was not able to play with her at the playground or in the house because of my big babybelly. SO Daddy was more fun. Do you remember what happend before she started to act like this??? Maybe a thought worth! Good Luck with this! I find it amazing how there little minds challenge us everyday.!!!! We been there with Annika,as she was 2, I was 8 months pregnant she was on a Daddy trip and I was not able to do anything. Which I have to admit hurt a lot and made me feel bad.Mommyego! And I though she is mad at me for something???Beeing pregnant! But we just let her get on with it,because I was not feeling that great and just went with the flow, when her Daddy was not home, I was able to bring her to bed or bath her.No Problems.
Now where she is almost 3. she wants as to take turns specially when someone had gotten her a timeout then she wants the other parent to be with her.
Thats something where I not agree with. Last time daddy gave her a timeout and then was not able to bring her to bed. I only told her that I am busy and Daddy is going to bring her to bed. As she still was rejecting her Daddy I told her she need to give Daddy a hug and a kiss and Tell him she loves him or there is no story before bed at all.
I think when they first start this with 2 it is the first expierence that they can control their little world, and there is almost now way they want to give it up. Maybe you have to let Eric to something with her what she really really likes.
Annika started to prefer Daddy as I was not able to play with her at the playground or in the house because of my big babybelly. SO Daddy was more fun. Do you remember what happend before she started to act like this??? Maybe a thought worth!
Good Luck with this! I find it amazing how there little minds challenge us everyday.!!!!

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